Mamas, Have We Lost Our Joy?
Do you remember how excited you were to be a new mommy? The pregnancy glow, the jittery excitement at your first baby shower, setting up the nursery, installing the car seat and so on? Then, you got to hold your little one. You, mama, worked so hard to deliver that sweet baby and bring it into our world. He or she first wanted you. You got to hold, snuggle and smell the sweetness of a newborn. What precious times.
What hard times too… they release us new mommy’s and daddy’s with a tiny human that we are fully responsible for. Talk about pressure. Nursing was not for the faint of heart (but so worth it) and deciphering our little one’s needs was at times harder than fighting the urge for Chick-Fil-A. on a Sunday. Then they grow a little. 2, 3, 4… and so on. The precious times are still there but sometimes the hard times rare up their ugly head more than we want.
Which do you dwell on? Those great times are so easily shared on social media and with our friends and family but what about the hard times. Have we let them steal our joy? The real joy within us, not the “Hey! How are you? I’m great!” kind of joy. But the joy deep in our hearts. I admit, I have at times. Diapers, dishes, carpool, fighting (for the love of our dear God, the fighting!!) Sometimes I fall prey to all the demands and allow it to slowly suck the life out of me. Then this verse comes to mind, “Consider it all joy when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” James 1:2-4
Isn’t it funny how some scriptures just scream at you for your stage of life?! We are still in the ‘itty bitty and preschool’ stage and I’m sure that the phrase, “the bigger the kid, the bigger the problem” will reign itself very, very true. So let us remember, no matter what stage of parenting we are in- it’s TOUGH. Can we empathize with one another? Maybe lend a helping hand or go to the Father in intercessory prayer for our friends in the trenches with us? After all, these trials we are facing with our littles are “testing our faith”. Are we allowing the trials to “produce endurance” or steal our joy? Mamas, I get it. I lose it too. Sarcasm or even a raised voice sneaks its nasty self out of my mouth at times too. You’re not alone. We are not alone. But there’s hope. Let’s be intentional today, and everyday, to look at the temper tantrums, the never ending to-do list, and all our other trials as an opportunity to grow in our faith. Let’s take mental pictures of the twinkle in our child’s eye, their quirky little smile, their oh so cute little waddle/run. Even better, what an opportunity to point our kiddos to the heart of our Savior. 👈 And that right there, that’s our sole purpose in parenting. Ted Tripp, author of Shepherding A Child’s Heart says, “Your heart’s desire in every phase of child rearing is to see your children internalize the gospel. The desire in all your training, in all your entreaty, in all your correction and discipline, it is to see your children come to the place where they have embraced the claims of Christian faith.” If we can lead our littles to grasp the Gospel then we win. Got that? We don’t win by giving them the best experiences, the best education, the nicest clothes and the most toys. We win when their little hearts reach a point of understanding the grace, forgiveness, mercy and unconditional love our Father offers all of us. So mamas and daddy’s out there, lets remember and remind our spouse of the value in James 1:2-4. Let’s all hold this scripture close to our hearts on the hard days and the good days.
“Consider it all joy when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” James 1:2-4
Sidenote: Michael is THE music man. He has a song for any and every situation. When I was sharing with him my heart behind this post he instantly said I needed to link to a Tenth Avenue North song called, No One Can Steal Our Joy. Click to listen if you get a chance! Hopefully it will leave you encouraged today.
Thanks for taking a ‘snippet’ from our world!
*You probably can’t fully tell but this is a picture of a HARD time! We had just walked in the door from the hospital. The dog is somewhere in the background losing its ever loving mind. Jumping, barking etc. One kid had a #2 accident all on the floor, new baby had a blow out and if I remember right another kid was on the verge of tears unsure as to if his new sister was okay. Oh and I’m totally wearing my nursing/car seat cover as a shirt because my milk came in early while still at the hospital and nothing covered me enough! 🤦♀️ Another story for another time 😂*
If you happen to love that nursing cover you can find it here! It’s seriously been the BEST! It’s cheap and SO soft. And I’ve owned serveral!
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